A Homegrown Family

Julie at Eternally Happy asked me..
I would love to hear your journey to wearing skirts/dresses. I have been on a similar journey this past year. Love to hear your thoughts.

Well Julie I love wearing skirts its as simple as that. And that has not always been the case. As a child and teen I disliked them very much.

But as I have gotten older I have learned what it is to be a woman and not a tomboy which I most certainly was as a younger person. Being a tomboy isn't bad I still am to some degree. But boys treat girls and tomboys differently. I remember that and feeling somehow left out of the whole girl thing. But not wanting to change....I am an only child and had to be both for my dad.

I have one pair of jeans that are screaming for me to turn them into a skirt, a couple of capri pants a pair of shorts, and some cut off sweats that I made into capri pants for my morning walk in the woods. The rest are skirts and this has been over the last 14 months I have changed this. I went 3 months of nothing but skirts at first and now its to that point that if I wear something besides a skirt somewhere besides home I feel very self concious. So I try not to unless its something where I don't need a long skirt in the way.

One day I was reading a blog and saw for the first time that how they live and choose to dress isn't because of some set notion but a choice. I was going through the motions of what the people around me wanted in their lives but I was missing something in my own, to do what I wanted not what the world wanted. And I'm not a teen anymore or in my 20's when you think you have to follow some set of rules of your peers. It was a real eye opener to me to actually do what I felt was right for me.

You are treated much differently when your in skirts/dresses than in shorts or pants I have noticed. I think men need to be reminded that we are woman some, not all have forgotten that simple little fact. I feel like a women in my skirts.

Below is part of a post I wrote in May
I wear mostly skirts, pants, shorts or capri pants very rarely. I was recently asked why I have switched to mostly long skirts. And here is my thoughtout answer......


Short skirts don't look good on me :0)
I prefer below the knee or mid cafe during the summer and full length during the winter they are so warm!
I have come to a point in my way of thinking that life is to short to follow the crowd. I see women who wear skirts all the time for religious reasons and I admire their faithfullness.
Though wearing a skirt for me is not the same reason as theirs. I just love them and for so many years I have wanted to wear skirts most of the time but for silly reasons I didn't. Afraid of what people would say and think were my biggest reasons. Well my only reasons! But as I have gotten older I have learned that most are more afraid of what others think of them than really honestly worrying about others.
So this year I wanted to see if I could wear a skirt most of the time for fun and see if there is a difference. What I have learned so far as of Nov Thanksgiving Day (2008) as a matter of fact almost 180 days I have worn a skirt, about 21 of those days I would have to guess ( and that is a high guess) I have worn sweat pants, shorts, capri pants, or a pair of jeans. And that is because I was working in the yard, doing service with church, a water balloon activity at church, and camping.
What I have learned...
1. You are treated better more respectful
2. I feel girly and I am very much a tom boy at heart.
3. I have sewn more with wanting to sew most of them.
4. Hubby loves it
5. doors are opened for me most everywhere I go
6. For some reason people smile and are so much nicer to me
7. I look at myself differently better.
8. I have more respect for myself
This list could probably go on and for those I know personally who read this please don't think I am weird. :0) I love skirts and for so many years I was very disrespectful to myself, degrading, very unmodest in thought, dress, action, and attitude. Now that I am older I am seeing myself differently and I want to do what I want not what society wants of me. I feel society going down a road I really don't want to go I could go againest that in other ways and I know many who do but for me this experiment has opened my eyes in so many ways...better ways. I like what I see in the change in me.

Julie I hope this answers your question. I know for me it made me feel good about myself to actually be a woman in a skirt, helped me see myself in a good way. I have long hair to almost to my waist but that is because I like long braids and having my hair up than having to style it all the time.

But I am thinking of having some of it cut off in the spring not all though. I like it to much.